Sometimes all it takes is a little confidence and a little knowing what to do to get that lady to notice you. Finding love isn't an exact science. You may get turned down a few times and you may get hurt a few times. The key to finding lasting love is in having a motivated and innovative attitude.
Dating is your opportunity to find out how much you have in common with her so keep in mind that the first girl you date may not be the one that will be right for you. That is okay. There are pretty girls everywhere and one of them is the perfect match for you. So square back your shoulders and let's see if we can get the two of you together. She is out there somewhere.
Are you shy or feeling insecure about asking her out? Don't be. Just because you think a girl is pretty does not mean that this is going to make her less likely to want to go out with a guy like you. Attractive girls generally have basically the same concerns about life as you do. You may even be her knight in shining armour. You won't know until you talk to her. So this is where you get into the big picture of things. Getting a girl to like you means that you have to get up the confidence to show her that you really are a guy that she might want to get to know a little better.
Let's figure out how we can get someone to want to go out with you. Let me rephrase that, let's figure out how we can get you to say hi to that specific girl because saying hi might be all that it takes to get her to go out with you. It is important to be confident to be noticed. It is a fact that women are attracted to men who appear to be more self assured, confident, or dominant than other men. The term dominant in this sense does not mean that women like an overbearing aggressive man. Quite the opposite in fact. What girls find attractive is a confident, stand on my own two feet, happy, secure, content in who I am, type of man.
It Can Sometimes Feel as Though You are the Only One Alone
Stand tall and square back your shoulders. Wear a smile. It is the man who stands out confidently in a crowd who is much more likely to be the one who gets noticed by the pretty girls. Confidence is the key to attracting attention to yourself and having self assurance will indeed get a girl to notice you.
Be the alpha dog. Stand proudly tall, smile, make direct eye contact with those around you and don't be afraid to speak in a confident tone of voice. A self assured voice will attract the attention of those around you. You can practice this stuff at home so you are more comfortable wearing the look when you are out in public. Be the alpha dog and stand out from the pack. You can use your physical presence within space to increase your odds of getting a date with the girl of your choosing.
The next time you find yourself in a group where pretty girls are present insure that you stand out from the crowd. You can appear larger and more dominate than other males by simply following a few basic steps.If you have the choice then choose to stand rather than sit as this increases the appearance of physical size and will increase your odds of being noticed within the group.
Dress for success: First impressions are important. If you are smaller in stature then dress to give your body the appearance of additional size. Wear a jacket which will make your shoulders appear larger. A jacket featuring a tapered waist, or padded shoulders, will give the appearance of wider shoulders. A slight heel on your boots or shoes will make you appear taller.
Of course your stance itself will say so very much to others. So stand proudly tall and speak with confidence in your voice. Never slouch as this will not only make you look submissive, but it will also reduce the appearance of your actual height and cause your body to look smaller than it actually is.
Try to be the focus of attention. Rather than moving off to the side or the corner of the room situate yourself within the center of the room. Doing this will insure that you are more clearly visible to everyone around you. Centering yourself in a space is a simple trick that will draw eyes to you. As individuals scan the group around them their eyes pass by the centre of the room most often so being in that space insures that the people surrounding you are made aware of your presence. It is a good way to insure that you stand out from the crowd.
Aggressiveness is not an attractive quality but assertiveness is. Don't be afraid to go up to a pretty girl who catches your eye. It is important for you to initiate a conversation. Be assertive in your approach and do not shy away because you are afraid of rejection. Be self assured, be well mannered, and smile. A confident happy person is an attractive one. Be an alpha dog. Keep in mind that she may be feeling the same insecurities that you are.
Assertive people are more confident people so which type of personality are you: Passive, assertive, or aggressive? An assertive man is much more likely to win the heart of a pretty girl than is either the passive or the aggressive male. He is also much more likely to have a lasting relationship.
Passive people tend to let others bully them around. They are individuals who let other people take away their rights. The passive person often finds their situation frustrating so when the opportunity presents itself they may talk behind another person's back or act as a bully to people they perceive as being weaker than them self. When a passive person acts in this manner they are then termed a passive - aggressive personality.
The aggressive type person is a bully. He steps on the rights of others, can be very mean, and will even use force to get his way. He takes away the rights of other people by being overly aggressive.
Assertiveness Training is Simply a Matter of Patient Practice
The ideal personality type is that of an assertive person. This person is in the centre of the scale and maintains his rights without taking away the rights of others. Assertive people are generally happier, more confident, and suffer less stress than passive or aggressive individuals. It really is not difficult to learn how to become an assertive person. Like most things in life it just takes time, patience, and a willingness to change. There are many ways to acquire assertiveness training. You can take an online course, pick up one in book form, or attend a course at your local college. It is time well invested. Becoming more assertive can help you to develop better social relationships.
There are girls everywhere but the question of the day is, "How do you find a girl who may be the right one for you?" You want to find a girl but not just any girl. Keep in mind that she has to be the right one for you.
This is the point in time where you need to get creative and innovative. Looking for someone to fall in love with is a lot like looking for a job. If you really want it to happen then it will but you have to be motivated enough to make it happen. Set down the remote, pick up a pen, and start to map yourself out a love plan. It is time to figure out locations in your local area where you can go to potentially find the girl of your dreams.
Find Someone With Common Interests and Beliefs as Yourself
Always keep in mind that choosing a suitable love partner helps to insure that your relationship will be much more likely to succeed in the long haul. Which means that you should look for a girl who shares some common interests, hobbies, and beliefs as yourself. Which means that you need to look for love in places where you will find a girl with the same interests as yourself.
Where are the best places to meet someone? If you are not sure where to start looking for the girl that you want to entice into loving you well here are a few hints. The local newspaper is a great place to start. An area of the paper which is very important to a single person, and yet greatly under used is the community events section. Look under this heading for clubs, groups, or community activities which interest you. If you enjoy hiking, biking, or canoeing then you may want to join one of these groups and check out the single girls who are also members there. Having common interests will help to insure a successful long term relationship.
You will usually find writer's groups, sporting events, senior activities, groups you can volunteer for, and a wealth of other local activities in the community events section of your local newspaper. If you can find a girl who enjoys the same things that you do then you not only successfully find a girl that you can enjoy spending time with but you may also successfully find a relationship that is much more likely to last for the long haul.
Check the singles column of your newspaper on a regular basis for genuine ads from local singles and for community singles events. If you spot a listing for a singles club in your neighbourhood then check out its meeting times and events calendar. (Ignore escort ads if you really want to find true love.)
You can post your own singles ad in a local paper as well. Most newspapers provide a mailbox for mail to be dropped so that you can remain anonymous unless you choose to identify yourself.Common interests increase the odds of a successful relationship. Take a course at your local college as this is a great way to get to meet girls who you may have a common interest with. Stick to subjects that you are truly interested in as this is how you are most likely to meet a girl with something in common with you. There are many evening and weekend courses in fitness, cooking, photography, language skills, and other areas of self improvement.
Did you know? Studies have found that the clean smell of a mans own sweat combined with light fruity scents or that of ocean breeze are some of the most attractive scents to women.
There are many groups that you can join and these offer up an excellent social situation in which to comfortably get to know the other members of the group. If you are physically active then join a gym or a sports team. Keep in mind that you want to join a group with a mix of individuals rather than an all boy's baseball team. There are all types
of clubs which you can join. For a less active person a chess, crib, hiking, or library group might be a good choice. If you enjoy dancing or would like to learn then that is an excellent spot to find girls. Many individuals use dance as a fun fitness program so you will find a variety of ages and sexes at these classes. Knowing how to dance is also a very beneficial talent to acquire.
Volunteer for a local charity or at your local animal shelter. Attend your local church or check out the books at your local library (but only if you like to read on a regular basis). Keeping in mind that you want to meet someone with common interests to yourself.
Join an online singles website but be careful to screen your potential dates carefully. Online dating can be a great way to meet someone but it can also leave you vulnerable to abuse. This is a stranger so play safe by taking extra time to get to know this person. Someone online can portray themselves to be anyone they want. Meet in a public place.
Stop for coffee at your local coffee shop and take a few minutes to really smile and acknowledge the other single people in the room. Use your assertiveness skills to let that good looking potentially single girl know that you would be interested in striking up a conversation.
Be resilient in the search for your girl. Whenever you have the opportunity to say hi or to open up a conversation with a girl who you feel has the potential to be your future mate don't be shy, say hi. There are hundreds of opportunities that are passed by each and every day.
Look around you at the grocery store, department store, park, beach, library, and every other location that you have the opportunity to peruse in your local area. Farmer's Markets are a casual location offering a good opportunity to open a conversation with other shoppers. Girls are out there. You just have to get out there and find the right one for you. Sometimes we look too much at the physical attraction and miss our soul mate who is the girl standing right beside the one you thought was right for you. Keep your mind open and don't be too upset if the first girl you date turns out to be one that doesn't have much in common with you.
Be patient. Keep looking and you will find the girl who is perfect for you. Look often, look in the right places, and take advantage of your opportunities. Don't give up if you get frustrated. Take a little break then get out there and start searching again. The girl you are looking for is out there waiting for you to find her.
Now to sum it all up. 1) Be an alpha dog and stand out from the pack.
2) Be confident. Be assertive. Smile!
3) Be respectful. Be polite.
4) Be romantic. Be considerate.
5) Talk to her like you would talk to a best friend.
6) Stay away from porn and prostitution as these will only give you an unrealistic picture of what is expected from you in a relationship.
7) If you want to go out with a pretty girl then all you really have to do is act like you deserve to.
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